Second post

I will start a new post and give you a brief outline of today so you get the jest of why I write this blog but also to show the world what kind of life I live in this house I say house as this is not a home because we are all individuals who share and live in this house but only connect through what is known as relationships which mean nothing.

My day started of fine in some ways, my wife needs to get up at 9.30am not because she works or studies but becuase my mother her evil which is the only word I can find to describe her mother in law wants her to get up at this time and if she does not she has a go at my wife for the whole day, you may not sympathies with me but for your information she is wheel chair bound and takes over 10 tables a day and has what you call stiff man syndrome????????? well that is what she has and has been ill all her life but if you lived here then you would understand that to feel sorry for her may not be the right thing as I said she is evil in her own ways.

Well back to this morning we went to the midwife as my wife expecting another child all praise to god, she is due on 16th March 2010.

so after we come back at lunch time my wife went straight to doing house chores otherwise my mother would swell up with anger inside but would not say a word to keep me happy. so my wife started to do the chores while her daughter Taslima played by herself.

I went out to hand some form to the local job center for my wife's maternity grant, when I got back guess what my wife still doing house work while my sister is still asleep and also my sister is 24 and soon to be married has asked while I was away in town to my wife to give her breakfast........ Yes a 24 year old asking her sister in law to give her breakfast in bed, believe me this is a routine thing and also when the days I work my wife as a gesture of respect and love will give me breakfast and what happened well my sister had complained to her mother who then had a big backbite session with my father and my wife getting the jest of the conversation now has to give this 24 year women who is still single by the way which is not the norm in Asian tradition breakfast every morning when my wife gives me breakfast out of love and respect or else my sister will tell mummy and mummy will moun and tell family and backbite about my wife on the phone and gossip which according to her principles are forbidden to do as a Muslim.

well the day came to end but what happens during the day that is routine for my wife. Well my wife goes to English Language classes on Monday but most times she misses the session as her evil mother in law swells up inside with anger once again if she even steps outside the front door, that is my wife stepping outside the front door, so she has spent 5 years still learning English.

My daughter goes to playgroup and event that my mother and father try to resist her from going as they don't want my daughter or wife to learn and have knowledge as knowledge equals power which would mean they would lose the comfort of having my wife as their slave to fend for them, yes Islam says that as a older son I look after my parents as they bore me in childhood but does not mean Islam says the daughter in law became the slave or even if she does help around the house it is not her responsibility as the daughter and son of the parents should do that.

I had tried to put my daughter to a nap time routine during the eraly afternoon but I failed not because I did not try or wanted to help a child get her sleep and keep healthy but because my mother did not like the idea of this or the early bedtime of 9 to 11pm which for a child of 3 is like 12 midnight but no my mother made sure my daughter went to sleep with her mother, my wife, at 1.00am in the morning. This is a routine, so how is a child meant to develop mentally and physically if that child is not sleeping properly and on time?

Well the time in Britain is coming to 2.00am and my daughter went to bed at 1.00am when my sister, her aunt come home from a night out. Can I remind you my sister has the same character as her mum, she can not tell truth from a lie as both are the same to them, loves to gossip behind people's back, is a jealous person and stubborn and things of herself as the only one who knows everything and also has no respect or the tradition and culture for her parents, i.e. will do as she pleases without respect to her elders and parents but says she respects them, she has a way of winning everything as her mother will side with her even if she committed murder.

The reasn for doing this Blog

I have started this blog as a way of letting my emotions and feelings out in a constructive way, after trying counseling for my issues which did not work as the solutions with the problems I have may not work and am skeptical will work.

so what is my problem??????? I got married 5 years ago after going through kidney failure for 5 years then at around 20 years old or so I got a Kidney Transplant & being what people would call a devout Muslim I deiced on marriage as the Prophet Muhammad Peace Be Upon Him said get married young and if not then the young should fast, well I was not going to fast all my life so marriage was the only solution as a girlfriend not only is expensive and may end with in a few months and I go from girl to girl, I decided on a better solution which was marriage at the time.

Anyway been married 5 years and got one daughter and another on the way AlHamdulillah All Praise Due To Him. Well what is the problem then well I live in an extended family which is not always the right thing but being Asian and my parents from the Sub-Continent we stick together which can be big hassle with 7 soon to be 8 in the house.

Before you comment I have tried to get a Council House but although had two in the pipe line did not take the actual move and you'll see why so in the blog.